
Mastering Interventions for Sexual Performance Anxiety
How to Intervene When Your Client Faces Anxiety Before, During and After Sex
People are often expected to have a hard-on at the drop of a hat: anywhere, anytime, with anyone. Sex without an erection is seen as no sex at all. Some of us would prefer to go without sex if it doesn’t involve penetration. Imagine the pressure! Everything revolves around the penis. The penis has to take responsibility for everything. And when a penis is not in the mood, it leaves everyone feeling like a failure. One person feels like a failure because they can’t be “man” enough and the person that they are in bed with feels like a failure because they didn’t inspire enough desire to get the person hard. It’s just a big freaking mess. And it gets worse as time goes on because anytime a dick goes limp, the fun stops. This teaches your brain that bad things happen when your penis is not in the mood. And both parties make this connection. Both people end up a bit traumatized.
So, what is the solution? You need to retire the penis from the protagonist role – you’ve got to get rid of the pressure and the fear that goes along with it. Everyone fears not being good enough, being left for someone else, the end of the relationship, etc. but these fears stand in the way of having what you want. You have got to get rid of them and you have got to erase the pressure you feel to perform.
The course covers the following:
- Issues underlying performance anxiety
- Common approaches in performance anxiety
- My approach to working with performance anxiety
- Practical techniques