— course for therapists
Resolving Desire
Discrepancies
Learn the clinical interventions for mismatched desire — what drives it, how relational trauma plays a role, and concrete steps to take in your next session.
$69
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— why this matters
Desire discrepancy is one of the most common issues in couples therapy — and one of the most mishandled
Most clinicians approach mismatched desire by trying to raise the lower partner’s libido — or by reassuring the higher desire partner. Neither works. Both miss the clinical picture entirely.
This course teaches the interventions that actually move the needle: understanding the relational dynamics driving the gap, addressing the trauma underneath low desire, and giving both partners a framework they can use together.
— the framework
Four modules that build the full picture
— what you will learn
Skills you’ll walk away with
01
Recognize the Clinical Picture
Identify when desire discrepancy is the core issue — and distinguish it from low libido, avoidance, or relationship conflict.
02
The Intervention Toolkit
Know which approaches are available, when to use each, and how to introduce them without making sessions feel clinical or scripted.
03
Relational Trauma’s Role
Understand how unresolved wounds suppress desire and why treating only the symptom keeps couples stuck in the same pattern.
04
Concrete Next Steps
A step-by-step map for your next session — exactly what to do and say when a couple is stuck in the high/low desire dynamic.
05
Holding Both Partners
How to work with both the higher and lower desire partner without inadvertently taking sides or increasing shame.
06
Real Case Examples
Clinical examples directly from Dr. Westberg’s private practice — see the framework applied to a real couple in detail.
— your instructor
Hi, I’m Dr. Westberg
I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AASECT Certified Sex Educator, and Certified Sexologist with over 20 years of experience. I’m a former professor at Lewis and Clark College where I developed and led the Sex Therapy Track.
I created the “Fuck Sex Model” — an innovative framework designed to address desire discrepancies, sexual trauma, and more. This approach has been integral in training hundreds of clinicians to practice effective sex therapy.
— what therapists say
Reviews from course participants
★★★★★
“I genuinely enjoyed your approach and informative videos that really break down the different elements of sex therapy as someone only just getting started in the field of MFT.”
MFT Student
★★★★★
“Everything you said resonated so much! It was validating to hear another professional have similar views and approaches. I took a lot of notes and feel empowered continuing to work with my couples.”
Couples Therapist
★★★★★
“As a presenter, I felt you were very grounded, down to earth, knowledgeable and easy to watch — which says a lot! I really appreciate your humaneness.”
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Frequently asked questions
Who is this course for?+
Licensed therapists, counselors, and clinicians who work with couples and want practical tools for addressing mismatched desire. It is especially relevant for MFTs, LPCs, and LCSWs who see couples regularly but have not had focused training in desire issues.
Do I need prior sex therapy training to take this course?+
No. The course is designed to be accessible for licensed clinicians without specialized sex therapy training. If you want a broader foundation first, the Master Sex Therapy Course covers the full framework before diving into specific issues like desire discrepancy.
How long is the course and how is it delivered?+
The course is delivered as self-paced video with selected readings. You get instant access after registration and can work through it on your own schedule. There is no time limit on access.
What CE approvals does this course carry?+
The course is approved by both AASECT and NBCC for 1 CE credit. After completing the course, you will receive a certificate you can submit for continuing education documentation.
What is the difference between this and the Master Sex Therapy Course?+
The Master Sex Therapy Course is a comprehensive 24-hour program covering the full range of sexual issues (12 CE credits, $297). This course is a focused deep-dive on desire discrepancy specifically — ideal if you already have foundational training and want targeted clinical tools for this issue.
Is there a refund policy?+
Yes. The course comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee. If you are not satisfied for any reason, contact us within 30 days of purchase for a full refund.