My work is focused on sex therapy but it is not only about sex.  Sex is never only about sexual techniques or competence.  Although it helps to know what to do and how to do it well, sex is mostly about your relationship to yourself and your relationship to others.  My approach starts out by helping you define what is it you want and why you want it.  Some people change what they want once they figure out that they want it because they think they should want it.  Keep in mind, that my job is to help you explore, not to steer you in one direction or the other.  After we define what it is you want, we go on to define the barriers to having what you want.  There are many barriers to reaching new and improved sexual experiences.  Sometimes it is about what is going on with your thinking, maybe you are doing to much of that or your thinking expresses your disappointment or rage about yourself.  Sometimes it is about past experiences that need to be talked about in a different way and reprocessed.  Sometimes it is about what is going on in your relationship to others, maybe there is contempt, fear, disgust, anger, disappointment, frustration getting in the way of having relationships that will contribute positively to sex.  Many times it is about how you feel about yourself when layers of protection are released.

There are many complexities involved in our sexual lives and these complexities demand that I use a variety of approaches and techniques in therapy.  I don’t have loyalty to one therapeutic approach over another because I feel I need all of them to be able to adapt to what it is you need.  Your needs will change as you develop in therapy and I will change my approach as you do so.  Because I give so much importance to having many different ways to work, I am continuously learning about human behavior.  It is fascinating to uncover the limitless ways to understand why it is that we do what we do.

What Issues Does Sex Therapy Usually Address:

  • Reduced desire for sex
  • Difficulty becoming become aroused
  • Erectile problems
  • Orgasm problems
  • Communicating about sex with partners
  • Improving boring or routine sex lives
  • Sexless marriages
  • Partners with different degrees or types of sexual desire
  • Concerns about what turns you on, or who turns you on
  • Being sexual with a partner if you or your partner has a history of trauma or sexual abuse
  • Pain during sex
  • Sexual addiction
  • Out of control or compulsive sexual behavior
  • Problems with body image
  • Trouble experiencing pleasure
  • Sexual pleasure or functioning in the face of physical challenges or chronic illness
  • Concerns about your sexual orientation or preference
  • Helping parents communicate with kids about sex
  • Gender transitions
  • Alternative relationship styles
  • Concerns about sexual practices
  • Fetishes