Dr. Doug Weiss defines sexual anorexia as the “active withholding of emotional, sexual, and spiritual intimacy.” Unlike established terms like mismatched sexual desire, hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), or asexuality, Weiss’s definition attempts to frame intimacy issues as a deliberate and intentional act. However, this framing presents several problems. Pathologizing Low Sexual Desire Weiss’s concept […]
If you find yourself feeling distressed about sex—whether it’s the anticipation of it, during the act, or afterward—it may point to a history of sexual abuse. Many sexual issues, such as lack of desire, anorgasmia, performance anxiety, and even infidelity, can often be better understood when viewed through the lens of past trauma or abuse. […]
Resolving Desire Discrepancies in Relationships Approved by AASECT & NBCC | Earn 1 CE Credits 30 Day Money Back Guarantee Register Here Hi, I’m Dr. Westberg I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified AASECT Sex Educator, and Certified Sexologist with over 20 years of experience. I am a former professor at Lewis and Clark […]
Why Life Stress Lowers Libido Low sexual desire is often misunderstood as an internal issue, but external stressors play a significant role, primarily because many people experience responsive desire. This type of desire is heavily influenced by emotional and physical well-being, making external factors like gender roles, financial strain, work pressures, health issues, and […]
What Is Often Overlooked In Mismatched Libidos When sexual desire fades in a relationship, it often stems from the pressure both partners feel—whether it’s the pressure to perform, meet expectations, or maintain a sexual routine that no longer feels natural. This pressure can create a cycle of anxiety and avoidance, further eroding desire and intimacy. […]
The Leading Cause in Sexless Marriage When sexual desire fades in a relationship, it can often be traced back to the pressure both partners may feel—whether it’s the pressure to perform, to meet expectations, or to maintain a sexual frequency that no longer feels natural. This pressure can create a cycle of anxiety and avoidance, […]
17 Factors Contributing to Low Libido and Mismatched Libidos
Understanding When My Wife Has No Desire for Sex: Causes and Solutions Women’s sexuality can differ significantly from men’s. While sex and gender are social constructs, my experience has shown that certain issues tend to be more common depending on the gender with which one identifies. Factors Influencing Sexual Desire Physiology Hormonal changes during menopause […]
11 Myths About Sexual Desire Myths about sex often lead to confusion, frustration, and conflict. By thinking critically and dispelling common myths about sexual desire, we can reduce frustration and conflict. Myth #1: Sexual Desire is Constant The belief that sexual desire should stay the same regarding quantity and quality is harmful because it is […]
Top 10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Desire You Lack of sexual desire can be challenging to navigate or fully understand. It often stems from multiple, interrelated factors rather than a single cause. To help when intimacy is compromised in your relationship, I’m offering straightforward steps you can take. The case examples provided are not tied […]
Healing From Low Sexual Desire Low sexual desire and mismatched desires are difficult things to work through. I think that is partly because therapists haven’t been able to understand the dynamics of low sexual desire. As a result, they often prescribe things that are counter therapeutic like scheduled sex. In this section, I provide you […]